Why can’t I just be happy?


It is a sad fact in the modern world that we live in that many of us are unhappy. This is especially true for those of us who have managed to attain so many things in life.  In the early days of my blog I wrote about what things we need to be happy and looked at Maslow’s Hierarchy of happiness.  This states that you start off with the basic things you need to survive such as food and water and works its way up to morality and purposeful existence.  I urge you to check this post out and decide, truthfully, where you think you are within this hierarchy.  If you are somewhere in the middle look at the things that you already have in your life and be grateful for them. See more in my gratefulness post.  You can then look at the things that are above the layer that you are on and decide which of these things are what you are looking for.

Great news, there are things that could be blocking your happiness.  Forbes magazine had an article that said there are 6 great enemies to happiness

  • Availability (we settle for what is there)
  • Ignorance(if we don’t know how to improve things, why bother)
  • Committees (everyone else is happy)
  • Comfort (why pursue greatness when there is good stuff on tv and nice food)
  • Momentum (getting stuck in a rut)
  • Passivity (just accepting)

You can read more about these in my post from last year.  Check them out.  There are hundreds of self-help books out there that all promise to have the answers about how you can sort out your life and be successful.  Maybe you have even read a few of them.  There may even be a chance that you’ve read all of the above entries on my blog and have read lots of other books and articles like them but you are still unhappy.  So what happened?  It could be that you have the wrong personality type. In Robert Kelsey’s – “What’s Stopping You?” He looks at two main personality types FF (fear of failure) and AM (achievement motivated).  He says that some of us are heavily concerned about being able to get things right all the time and worry about what others will think.  The rest of us don’t care what others think and are motivated by what they can achieve.  Which are you?

There are many ways out there to beat these barriers to your health and happiness, ultimately the ownership of the problem is on you.  Accept it and then look at how you can do something about it.  Now go and do it.



Hi, I was born in England and trained as a teacher, tried sales, and management then returned to my first love of teaching. In the evenings I am a self employed karaoke DJ. I love to teach and coach others to improve their lives and be their best.

One thought on “Why can’t I just be happy?

  • 14th April 2017 at 6:18 pm

    As a Newbie, I am continuously exploring online for articles that can help me. Thank you


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