Forgiveness can be a great thing in your life. How? I’ll tell you.
First, emotions and feelings have drastic effects on your body, your life and the world around you. This has been shown with The Law of Attraction and with scientific evidence to back it up. Dr Masaru Emoto conducted experiments using water. Water is the most abundant “element” on our planet and in our bodies (we are about two thirds water). He wanted to see if we could affect it, so he first just froze water on it’s own and recorded how it looked when he froze it. When he did this the result wasn’t very exciting. He then exposed the water to different types of music and recorded the results, now this was interesting. Below are what the water looked like under a microscope after exposing it to Mozart (left) and rock music (right).
You’ll agree that these are very different. So what made them different? Dr Maseru Emoto then tried exposing the water samples to emotions because the Mozart music contained themes of love and the rock music contained anger and hate. He even tried just writing the emotion on the containers of water, this is what he found. These ones are love and forgiveness (left) and “you make me sick” (right).
These results can be found in just a single drop of water, imagine what it can do to your whole body. If you want to know more you can check out his book “The Hidden Messages in Water”
If you have ever dropped something in water you will see an effect. First there is a splash and then you see ripples radiating around the splash and these continue until they eventually run out. We’ve seen that positive emotions/ words/intentions have a much better effect on water and that this effect can happen throughout our bodies. This means that just a small drop of intention could change the way we feel. This can be seen when someone is angry or upset and something makes them laugh or think of something that makes them happy. Their whole body seems to change in an instant. We have also seen how this effect can then affect others in close proximity. There are videos out there on YouTube that show this in action. One of my favourite is an advert and shows a man with headphones on just watching something on his laptop on a tube train. So what? Initially this is nothing out of the ordinary, then he starts to laugh like he is watching the funniest thing in his life and keeps on laughing for ages as if he is watching a whole series of hilarious things. The people around him start to look at him then start smiling and talking about him then they start laughing. AMAZING a whole carriage of people laughing just because someone else is, you can almost see the ripple effect as it spreads from the man to the rest of the passengers.
This is definitely a good thing and so will have a good effect on you if you allow it to. So why do we have trouble doing it?
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” — Mahatma Gandhi
This is true, especially when we are trying to forgive ourselves. Forgiveness is required when we are either angry or feel guilty. These are both negative emotions and can cause great changes to our physical ( and mental) health if they are not dealt with. There are whole industries dedicated to anger management and mental health therapies. These therapies are for the person feeling the negative emotions, not for the person/thing that caused the anger or the event that caused the guilt. Why is that?
The answer comes from another question, “Who is affected by the emotion?”.If you are angry who is affected? First and foremost it is you, your body has now gone in to it’s stress mode (fight or flight). You want to fight in some way, shout at or hurt the offender or sometimes just anything in range – this is when people scream in to a pillow, shout at the TV or punch walls. Believe it or not this is a good way to manage anger when the offender is not there as long as nobody gets hurt – including you in the case of punching stuff. This may not completely work as the object of your emotion may still be out there. Until you do something about it you remain in the stress mode. The offender has no idea and so is not affected at all, the only person suffering now…is you. So what are YOU going to do about it?
You could stay angry/stressed and do nothing or stay angry and stressed and become obsessed with revenge. Either way will be detrimental to your health and mental well-being and ultimately stop you from living YOUR life and doing what YOU want to so in pursuit of reacting to a single event. You might eventually be able to confront the object of your anger, what will happen then? Shouting? Violence? Will that make you a better person, or make you feel better? Probably not. There is even a chance that they will have no recollection of the event in question at all (they could have been in a rush or didn’t know what they were doing or had no choice, you just don’t know) and so no regrets or remorse at all or even find you offensive and get YOU arrested for your attack. Am I saying that you should never get angry? Not at all, but I am saying that you should think before you act. Is there any benefit to being angry about what has happened? Can you do something about it now or in the future? If the answer is no to both of these then the best thing to do is let it go and forgive them. This is the same if you are angry with yourself, ultimately the results are the same you need to ask the same questions. If you have regrets, faced failures, let yourself down, hurt someone or done something bad the results are the same. If you need to be forgiven, apologise and ask for forgiveness. Once forgiven you will feel much better and be able to move forward with your life and start living for you and not for anger/revenge or guilt.
It time for forgiveness.